I am sometimes appalled how life of a man is taken for granted .... By Deepika Narayan Bhardwaj ·
Yesterday while talking to a friend, I told him about the misuse of provisions of Dowry laws and how families are suffering because of it. I was quite surprised by his reactions. Like him, I have often seen people brushing off this problem as 'men have been so dominant over years, its alright if some are punished now' or 'When there is a fight anyone would do anything, law can't stop it' or 'He must have done something wrong to her else she wouldn't have done that'.
I am sometimes appalled how life of a man is taken for granted so easily. He is usually at mistake in eyes of everyone when things go wrong - forget about whose fault it is. And this is not the attitude of only women for men but also of men towards men. Until they themselves fall into the trap of being blamed for a wrong reason, they never sympathize with the other person.
I fail to understand how on earth can i/men in my family can be punished for what our grand grand fathers did(though i feel the society was much more peaceful then and relationships had far more respect and values than now). How can we sit silent to the misuse of laws (be it by a man or a woman). How can we put all the blame on the system and never take any responsibility on us to do something about it. And then I remember.....the WALLS full of messages for Nirbhaya in December and no trace of it now in any status or any wall...it was a News and its gone....We Move on like NEWS CHANNELS. But I can assure....when it happens in our home...there wouldn't be any moving on!!!
Thanks for this great post Deepika
/// And this is not the attitude of only women for men but also of men towards men. Until they themselves fall into the trap of being blamed for a wrong reason, they never sympathize with the other person. /////
1. Feminists come in many forms. Some are men. Some are women. Some are doctors, some lawyers... some judges ... some bloggers ...
2. Men need to be saved from men
2.1. Karma catches up ... I've seen many such people getting caught and comming back here (to support groups I mean)
3. To save oneself from stupidity one good way / method is to reject the norm and get away .... right from maharishis to steve jobs many rejected the norm and were rewarded.... Honest law abiding men REFUSING to marry will wake up many of these idiots